Thursday, July 31, 2014

Freedom to Fail: Pursuit of Happiness

Freedom to Fail: Pursuit of Happiness
Written by: Dave DeRose

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness.”
-Declaration of Independence

                Without bravery to exercise freedom, we become lackluster drones moved by every slight breeze that passes. Always moving with the wind, never standing out. It takes a ferocious desire to dream and to act on that dream in order to experience the benefits of true freedom. It is incredibly more common, however, for fear to drown dreams. This can manifest itself in a variety of ways. It could be that we are trapped in our minds with thoughts of self-doubt, concerns about how others view us, dwelling on the past or fixating too much on the future. There could be a dream that's in need to be accomplished, but waiting for the perfect circumstances to take action beats out giving it a shot. In thinking such thoughts, we are mentally oppressing ourselves from realizing our true capacity for freedom. It is through freedom that we may attain happiness.
                In the United States Declaration of Independence, the three unalienable rights are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness. This is a clear indication of how the Founding Fathers viewed Freedom. We are given life and liberty, but then we must pursue happiness. Happiness is a byproduct of courageous risk-taking actions. If we do not exercise this skill, we are not being nourished by the freedom or liberty we are endowed with by God. In not being bold and pursuing happiness, we become slaves to inaction. We sit on the sidelines of our lives, not truly free. We exist in limbo, unattached from the life God wants for use.

“Freedom is not worth having if it doesn’t include the freedom to make mistakes.”
-Mahatma Gandhi

                One reason why we are guilty of not pursuing happiness through our God-given right of liberty is because we are emotionally paralyzed. If we are filled with self-doubt, we will lack the confidence to venture out of our comfort zone. If we are concerned about how others view us, we will never truly be ourselves, and if we're never ourselves, how can we claim to be free? If we are stuck dwelling in the past, we close ourselves off to any new possible future. If we are too focused on the future, we may miss God’s calling on our life. Lastly, if we rationalize not acting because the circumstances aren’t ideal, we caution ourselves away from experiencing God’s potential for our life, like a kid standing on the edge of a pool afraid to jump in because, when he sticks his toe in, the water's cold. Don’t deny yourself the joy of swimming in life. 

“I have prayed for you that your feet may not fail . . . . I tell you, Peter, the rooster will not crow until you deny three times that you know me.” (Luke 22: 32-34 NIV)

Jesus’ point is, even in spite of Peter's forthcoming failure, that He still hopes and prays he will continue to act. It is important to know that Jesus does the same for us. He wants our feet to not fail us in the face of failure. Why do we struggle so much with failure? The root cause is simply that we don’t want to fail.  We especially don’t want others to see us fail. What we need to realize and remember is that failing and freedom go hand in hand.  We have the freedom to act, which often results in failure. Failure’s gift is experience. Experience allows us to learn about ourselves,  our strengths, weaknesses, and delivers the knowledge we need to succeed the next time. If we don’t exercise our freedom through action, we will be missing out on the path God desires for us. We need to change our perception of what failure is; failure is a gift. It's important to our growth both in life and in our walk with God.

“Peter said, ‘Man, I do not know what you are talking about.’ And immediately, while he was still speaking, the rooster crowed. And the Lord turned and looked at Peter. And Peter remembered the saying of the Lord, how he had said to him, ‘Before the rooster crows today, you will deny me three times. And he went out and wept bitterly.”  (Luke 22: 60-62 NIV)

Often times, what we perceive to be a failure can often be a blessing. Nobody understands this better than Peter. When Peter denied Jesus, I bet he thought he had failed in epic proportions.  How could he ever recover from such an egregious failure? Yet he became one of the most influential individuals in the Christian faith. God has a plan for our failures. If Peter hadn’t understood failure, he may not have achieved what he did. His failure gave him strength for what came next.

“But Peter, standing with the eleven, lifted up his voice and addressed them.” Acts 1: 14 NIV

The passage above is the first time the gospel of Jesus was preached.  And who was to deliver this monumental sermon? Peter.  The same Peter that failed Jesus by denying him three times. In this action, of preaching about Jesus, Peter shows his unwavering faith. It is in this moment he becomes free. He has started on the path that God has set out for him, and what a glorious path it was. On the day of that first sermon, around 3,000 people where baptized in the name of Jesus Christ. It was through Peter acting, choosing to speak, that he experienced true freedom. The courage it took for him to "[lift] up his voice" was immeasurable. He was, in the eyes of all his peers, blaspheming. An act punishable by death. Yet, in the face of it all, he chose to act, to show faith, and, in doing so expressed his God given freedom.
                God gives us freedom, which includes the freedom to make mistakes. He did this so that, through choice, we may experience happiness.  In order to be blessed by lessons from such mistakes and failures, we must first act, and not let our feet fail. Put our faith and trust in God. We must step out of the boat into the troubled waters and experience freedom through faith and action. So why should we do that thing we feel compelled to do today? Because we are free to. Let us act today, and see what God has in store for us.

Monday, July 28, 2014

Thursday

Thursday
Written by: Dave DeRose

Blast and jar of the alarm
Pull myself out of bed arm by arm
With a churning in my gut
I wish my eyes could return to shut

Prepare for the day by
Shower, teeth, deodorant, tie
Ironed khakis fall into my crunched car
Drive to where I feel sub par

Chalk, dust, computer beam
With desire to help kids dream
Students faces filled with hope
Still can't help but feel like a dope

Unwanted I feel
Society doth peel
My dignity, educational and professional ability
Society's lack of respect stripped me to humility

Dreams I had
Of differences made iron clad
I only found
My efforts unbound

Only by God's grace
Will I keep pace
With sound focus
To give students a solid locus

My vocation isn’t popular
To see impact I need more than binocular
Yet, my need to understand remains
Unnecessary, God explains

His capacity to love
His gifts of Grace drove
The meaning of my calling,
to keep students from falling

To Him I give Thanks
For filling my blanks
For giving me purpose and vision
My work decreases humanities division

Allow me an inference
Thanks to God, I make a difference
I have a newfound meaning
To make future lives gleaming

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Self-Worth vs. Money

Self-Worth vs. Money
Written by: Dave DeRose


                Self-worth and money has been a battle of mine for years.  This includes having passion for my vocation versus making the most possible amount of money.  You see, I am a teacher. Everyone knows how teachers get paid.  What people don’t know is the turnover rate in education is atrocious. In the first five years around 48 percent of new teachers leave.  I have seen this first hand.  I have to say that the pressure to leave is intense.  In order to make ends meet, I have held a variety of odd jobs. I have done everything from landscaping, working the front desk at a gym, sold supplements, and worked my way up to personal training. I found that a lot of the same skills that made me successful as a teacher also made me successful in other facets of life.
                I was ready to quit teaching.  I was frustrated. I could give you a list of frustrations I had with education at the time but it would serve no purpose.  All that is important is that I was unhappy. I loved my students and my job but there was something missing; meaning. I had an incredible out, something I have proven to myself that I could be successful at, personal training. Then I began to rationalize even more why I should quit.  I was still helping people. I was helping them to lose weight, gain fitness, or achieve something they couldn’t without my knowledge.  My clients were engaged. They were motivated. I am an extremely good arguer. I could argue why one penny is better than another.  I was building my case to leave education.
                There was something missing from my life. The potential increase in income made me salivate.  I wanted to stop having multiple jobs… work less, make more.  I thought it would bring me happiness. Then something unexpected happened to me.  Something that would change my life forever.  It would give me purpose, direction, and above everything, a sense of contentment in my current state. I found God.  When I stopped putting my interests and desires first and started putting my troubles on God, He changed my heart and then my mind.  I went to school with a completely different attitude.  My students noticed a difference, noting how happy I seemed (and these are seventh graders so that was especially amazing).
                I stopped thinking about what I wanted for myself and started praying for what God wanted for me.  I know I make less money.  I know that not everyone looks at what I do as a successful career. I don’t care.  I am happy.  I know I am making a difference.
                Since this new found purpose that was God given, I have had a completely different mindset when thinking about my future.  I enrolled in grad school. I am working on a degree in educational leadership.  My goal now is to, hopefully, be a school leader and to make as deep of an impact as I can in the lives of students and other teachers.

                Money has its place in life. Obviously, you need a certain amount to survive.  It is when we mix pride with income that trouble arises. I wanted to be able to do things I saw my friends doing. I felt that my skills and talent deserved more money.  I felt like I was owed. I wanted, I wanted, I wanted.  My thoughts had very little to do with my purpose, my impact, my legacy as a person and as a Christian. When I put God first, my life was incredibly enriched. I went from wanting to build my own kingdom, to building His.  Mine will fade away, but His will live forever. When approaching any vocation, pray for God to give you a purpose. If you have His guidance, money becomes a bonus in whatever you end up doing… no matter the amount. 

Thursday, July 3, 2014

Determination Over Expectation

Determination Over Expectation
 Written by: Dave DeRose

                I am currently in a state of concern about how people today look at goals in life.  These goals could be anything from weight loss, improving on a skill, developing closer relationships with people, or any other area of your life that needs improvement.  What I have found is that, in general, if it (whatever it is) doesn’t come easy to them they give up, find excuses, and sweep the issue under the preverbal carpet.  This pattern is not only ignored by society, but is encouraged.  People only want to see people succeed at things they are naturally good at.  When someone attempts to step outside their “box” of skills and abilities others, often friends and sometimes even family, caution, discourage, and lessen the importance by saying, “I just think you’re over thinking that. It’s no big deal.”
                This attitude along with the support from society, has developed a culture of one trick ponies.  Long gone are the days where people strived to be talented at various sports, music, and learning.  People are, for the most part, emotionally driven.  When they already feel anxious about stepping outside their comfort zone, and they receive discouraging feedback, they are more than likely going to cave to comfort.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “I would work out but I’m too lazy. At least I am really good at my job. Good to know I have that going for me.”
                It is your right to have everything going for you.  You don’t have to be smart and out of shape, athletic and not musical, and be hardworking while lacking friendships. Of course life needs balance, but people operate under this false dogma.  Nothing could be further from the truth.
                How do we fix the common culture?  We stop setting goals that are results driven and move to ones that are based on determination.  For example, in weight loss, don’t make the goal to lose ten pounds, make the goal to be committed to working out five times a week and eating right every day  The latter will guarantee success and a more positive experience.
I am living this right now. I am 28 years old and have been an athlete my whole life, I have never picked up an instrument in my life, besides the recorder in sixth grade (which I failed, sorry Mrs. Craft).  A few weeks ago, I decided to teach myself how to play the guitar.  It was by stepping outside my box that I realized this truth about successful goal setting.  You must know, I am horrible. No one wants to hear me play. But if I want to figure out how to play, I am going to have to stay determined. There is no way I could set a goal like: I want to play a full song in three months.  That would be absurd, and if I did set that goal, I would be setting myself up for extreme disappointment.  When I don’t reach my results based goal, I will become even further disappointed.  I already sound bad and I couldn’t reach my goal.  Why would I continue?
If instead I set my goal to be determined and practice for at least an hour a day, then my emotions are attached to my practicing instead of reaching a result.  I will now feel bad if I miss a day. I guarantee that if I practice for an hour a day I will get better, no matter how horrible I am now.  If you are trying to get in shape, if you set your goal on eating every meal every day and working out five times a week, you will succeed!  Your emotions will be tied not in the scale but to your grit.  No matter what area of your life that needs improvement, set your goal on being determined, not on a potential outcome.  Certainly, you should not set them on results others have had.  People learn how to play the guitar faster than I can, people burn fat at different rates, and so on.  Your body, your mind, your results will vary.  Ignore the successes and failures of others, focus on you.

When it comes to facing society, if a friend discourages you from achieving something that is clearly in your best interest, you need to seriously question if that person is a good friend.  This can seem incredibly hard but, trust me, if you continue to stay dedicated to your objective, new people will come into your life that will help support and guide you through it.  I personally have had to distance myself from people I was close to for many years when I realized that they didn’t have my best interest in mind.  Don’t settle for company, strive for people with purpose. Don’t be afraid to grow and become bigger and better than yesterday, instead, take an exited approach to life.  Think about everything you can, want, and dream to be. Then go get it.